With the release of Tomcat 6.0.24, a new Listener (the JmxRemoteLifecycleListener) is available that lets you connect to JMX running on your Tomcat server using jconsole. Using this Listener you can specify the secondary port number instead of it being picked at random. This way, you can open two known ports on your firewall and jconsole will happily connect and read data from Tomcat's JVM over JMX.
Setting it up is pretty easy. First, copy catalina-jmx-remote.jar from the extras folder of the binary distribution into Tomcat's lib folder.
Update your server.xml to include the Listener:
<Listener className="org.apache.catalina.mbeans.JmxRemoteLifecycleListener" rmiRegistryPortPlatform="10001" rmiServerPortPlatform="10002"/>
Replace the ports with whichever ones you wish. Make sure to open up those ports on your firewall. Be sure to properly configure JMX using an authentication and SSL. Or if you're just setting this up for testing, you can go with the totally insecure and unsafe configuration and add the following JVM arguments to your Tomcat startup script (typically CATALINA_OPTS or JAVA_OPTS):
-Dcom.sun.management.jmxremote.ssl=false -Dcom.sun.management.jmxremote.authenticate=false
Now you can start Tomcat. On your client machine, start jconsole and drop in the following URL for your remote process:
service:jmx:rmi://your.public.dns:10002/jndi/rmi://your.public.dns:10001/jmxrmi
Obviously you need to replace your.public.dns with the DNS address of your Tomcat machine, and if you chose different ports, change those as well. With some luck, you'll connect and be getting data!
If you're on EC2 or a similar network where you have an internal DNS name that's different from your external/public DNS name, one more step is required. Additionally set the following property to the server's external/public DNS name
-Djava.rmi.server.hostname=your.public.dns
And with that bit of magic you should be off and collecting data!